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>> I’m going home…and I’m scared >>

17May

I’m going home next week for the first time in more than a year and the entire thing kind of scares me.

I want to go home.  It’s time.  I need it.  I want to see my family and friends and eat cheese and Mexican food and bake and sleep in my bed and see Mt. Rainier and go out to happy hour with friends and not sweat constantly or be eaten alive by mosquitoes.  I need and want all of that.  But it’s not as simple as just being able  to look forward to catching up with people and eating the foods I’ve missed.

The thing is, I don’t know if I’m coming back to Thailand, or assuming I do, when that would be.  Which is problematic considering a) I love it and b) I have someone.  Oops.

When I first made the move to Southeast Asia, I bought a one-way ticket without a second thought.  This time, buying another one-way ticket home, was difficult.  While originally I was also full of doubt, questions and uneasiness, there was also a lot of excitement, anticipation and readiness to go.  I was ready for something different, for a new adventure and to be on my own.  Now, I have different doubts and questions, along with a really unwelcome feeling of indecisiveness and being lost.

Buddha in Autthaya, Thailand

In the beginning I thought traveling and living abroad would help point me in the right direction of where I want to be and what I want to be doing with my life.  Ultimately, I think it will…but at the moment I feel more directionless than I did to begin with.  That wasn’t supposed to happen…

I’ll be leaving Thailand exactly two years after I originally arrived.  During that time I’ve become TEFL-certified and taught English in a variety of Thai schools, backpacked through India, Vietnam, Cambodia and Laos, lived on my own, learned to ride a motorbike, (tried to) learn a new language, got familiar with visa runs and my passport number, fought constantly with mosquitoes and cockroaches, made several friends and saw many of them come and go, showed family and friends from home my new, adopted home.  I’ve gotten used to squat toilets, cold showers, eating rice for breakfast, never wearing a seat belt, riding a motorbike in the rain, nothing being on time and drinking beer with ice.  While those will be easy to get used to not having or doing, there are other things that I think have changed me more and will take more time to adjust to.

Food Stalls in Chiang Mai

Like the price of food…

My concept and perception of money is completely screwed up.  Spending a couple dollars on a full meal is normal and a glass of wine is a splurge.  I can get my motorbike serviced and washed for less than half of what a tank of gas will cost at home.  My way of driving has completely changed – from driving on the left-side of the road, swerving in between traffic and not thinking twice about driving up the side of the road the wrong way – what will I feel like behind the wheel of a car in America?

I’m also (more) used to a completely different set of customs, social rules and behaviors.  I’ve been surrounded by Buddhism instead of Christianity, holding your tongue instead of spouting off, and being patient no matter what the situation.

What’s going to happen when I get home?  And what am I going to do next?

 

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>> 5 Tips for Expat Living >>

14May

After two years of living abroad, there are a few things that have come up and again that make life and settling down in a foreign place a little easier.

5 Tips for Expat Living

Be patient

Things will go wrong, you won’t understand what’s happening around you and will get frustrated, but if you’re patient everything ends up working itself out.

Ask for help

Chances are there are plenty of expats who have been in your position before with the same questions, problems or frustrations.  There are a ton of Facebook Groups made up of expats living in Chiang Mai where people post everything from questions and concerns, to new apartments and special event information.  If you ask for help, you’ll probably get it and save yourself some headache for trying to figure things out on your own.

Learn the language

I’m still shocked about the number of people who live here who can barely even order food.  It’s embarrassing.  Even if you don’t have to use the native language to get by, still try.  You’re choosing to live in the country, and a country’s language and culture are completely intertwined.  Knowing how to speak and read the language around will open up your world and understanding of the place.

Limit your tie with ‘home’

It’s important to keep in touch with people and happenings back at home, but if you spend too much time trying to stay connected you’ll miss out on your current life.

Make local connections

It sounds obvious, but isn’t always simple to do.  However, the sooner you’re able to make connections and build relationships with those in your new community the better.  Having someone to turn to who knows the area better than you is invaluable.

These tips are from an interview I did for Expats Blog, read more here.

 

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>> 7 Ways to Save Money Traveling in Thailand >>

24Apr

So we’ve covered the basic monthly expenses for living in the Land of Smiles and some surprising money sucks, now we’re on to how to save money in Thailand.

While most things are very cheap, there are a few little ways to still cut corners and save a couple baht.  None of the ideas below are going to help you significantly save (and depending on your budget, may not even be worth the bother), but when you can buy things for as little as 5 baht, then every bit counts!  Here are seven little ways to save money traveling in Thailand.

  • Refill your water – You may not notice them at first but once someone points them out to you, you’ll see machines to refill your water bottles everywhere.  Usually 1 baht fills up about a liter…while a new 1.5 liter bottle will cost 13-20 baht.  You do the math.
Water refill

A water refill station

  • Don’t eat at the places geared toward tourists – This is an obvious one, but still worth mentioning.  There are two small cooked-to-order Thai food shops right around the corner from each other near where I live.  They’re both no-frills places that are good and offer a wide selection of choices.  One sells dishes averaging around 50-60 baht (with some items going into the 100s) and the other sells plates for 25 baht.  The main difference is that the second shop is smaller with only one sign and caters toward the locals that live and work in the area, while the first shop has better displayed menus…and prices more expensive than many Thais will pay when they know they can get the same thing somewhere else for less.  I’m not saying it’s a bad thing to eat at a place that’s maybe easier to navigate, but just be aware there are even differences between the places where you think you’re eating ‘like the locals’.
  • Drink whiskey – In my post about what sucks up your money I mentioned booze – a large bottle of Chang beer (the cheapest brand) at 7-11 costs more than a plate of street food.  Head to a bar, restaurant or club and the price naturally goes up.  If you’re set on a night out though, do what the Thais do and buy a bottle of whiskey with ice and mixers for the table.  Bottles of beer and cocktails will quickly add up, in fact often single cocktail prices are close to a small bottle of the Thai rum Sangsom, so purchasing a pint, or even a fifth, is the most cost efficient.  Most places will have a ‘set’ including the alcohol, ice and mixers for one price.

Sangsom Set, Thailand

  • Barter – Most prices can be bartered down since just about everything – from tuk tuks to tattoos – is up for negotiation.  If you want a cheaper price then ask for it, but be reasonable.  It’s not worth your time to haggle over 50 cents and probably means more to the person you’re bartering with.  (Certain stores where there are visible prices on products do not barter.  Also, items like those you would get at a convenience store – soda, chips, ice, etc. – are a set price.)
  • Don’t buy ‘breakfast’ – There are plenty of places that sell Western-style breakfasts…and they’re all at least three times as much as a basic Thai dish.  While it just has to be done now and again (it takes a little while to get used to grilled pork and sticky rice in the morning), too many breakfasts can break the budget.  Don’t want rice soup?  Stock up on fresh fruit and buy some bread or yogurt at a shop.
Why would you want want bacon and eggs when you could have these?

Why would you want want bacon and eggs when you could have these mangoes instead?

  • Rent a motorbike – If you’re going to be in one place for more than a day and want to see different parts of the area. it’s worth it to rent a motorbike for your transportation instead of relying on public transport or tuk tuks.  Depending on where you are, a daily rental can cost as little as 120 baht and most tanks can be filled up for around 120 baht as well, so total you’re looking at around $10 for 24/7 transport.  The more days you rent for, the more opportunity there is for haggling and the flexibility and freedom it gives you is priceless.
  • Skip the coffee, snacks and sodas – As I mentioned (and many people commented) here, these can quickly add up to quickly cost more than your meals.  While they’re not expensive themselves, it’s all relative, and compared to what you can get for the same price (i.e., a can of Coke for 15 baht or a plate of food for 30) skipping the snacks is an easy way to keep some extra baht in your pocket.

What am I missing?  What have you done to cut corners and save in Thailand?  Let me know in the comments.

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>> Moment of: Vietnamese Floating Entrepreneurs >>

18Mar

Tam Coc, Vietnam

When traveling solo through Vietnam I a) didn’t know what the heck I was doing b) didn’t know where I should go visit and c) actually spent a lot of time alone.  You hear that if you travel by yourself you’re rarely ever truly alone since it’s so easy to meet people along the way.  This is often true…but sometimes the universe conspires to make you question if the whole independent trip was really such a good idea to begin with.

Like when you’re the ONLY traveler to get off a packed night bus in a small town at 10 p.m.

Which is what I found myself doing in Ninh Binh about an hour and a half outside of Hanoi.  I then was one of two guests staying in the guest house I was ushered to.  Seems legit.  Because I had no clue what to do, or any one to do it with, I ended up hiring a motorbike guide for the morning to take me out to the surrounding area and Tam Coc, or ‘three caves’, in particular.

Here I go into a row boat – which the man paddled the oars with his FEET (and refused to let me take a picture) – to go out to the low caves.  The entire trip to the caves and back wasn’t very far, only taking about 45 minutes, but led you through some serene waterways lined by rice fields and karst cliffs.

Beautiful, relaxing and peaceful.

That is, until you came to the caves and had floating convenient stores waiting for you.  Clever and enterprising, but also annoying and uncomfortable when you’re in a boat by yourself in the middle of nowhere with pushy sales people.  In fact, after giving in and buying a water, several women then pressured me to buy a snack for the foot-paddling boat man…which I’m pretty sure he probably just gave back to them to resell on his next round through.

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>> Moment of: Trying to Teach >>

13Jan

Teaching English in Thailand

It already seems like a long time ago, but I was teaching here for quite a while.  Highschoolers, adults, primary students, 2- to 4-year-olds…

I obviously was lacking in the discipline department…

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>> Photographing People: Right or Wrong? >>

07Dec

I have an issue with taking pictures of people when traveling.

In the past year and half going through Thailand, India, Cambodia, Laos and Vietnam I’ve come across several situations of travelers snapping away at locals.  Sometimes it’s in a situation that I find okay – like, say, with a tour guide who really makes you laugh (and you’re paying) or when there’s some type of display, gathering or performance.

Thai Drag Queen in Chiang Mai

THIS is okay to take a picture of…he’s asking for it

But more often than not, it makes me uncomfortable.  Like, really ,uncomfortable.  Sure, I understand when you see something or someone different than you who’s intriguing that you want to capture the moment.  People are always more interesting than things…and you see a lot of interesting people when you’re moving from place to place.  But is it okay?  Appropriate?  Polite?

What if you go somewhere where people are part of the attraction – like a Thai hill tribe or artisan factory?  (Interesting take on Thai hill tribes here.)  What about the people just minding their own business working at a noodle stand?  Or a group of students walking to school all in their matching uniforms?

Long Neck Karen Woman in Thailand

I often see it as at least annoying, but usually invasive.  Many times people are going about their daily lives, and while it’s different from yours, they’re not putting on a show for you.  If I had tourists taking pictures of me while I walked from the train station to work everyday in Seattle, I wouldn’t have liked it at all and felt uncomfortable.  I don’t want other people thinking that I see them as an object of amusement.

Take Luang Prabang in Laos for example – here is a place where the daily morning practice of giving alms to the monks is still very apparent.  It’s one of the only places where you can easily see hundreds of monks walking through the city collecting food from the townspeople.  It’s beautiful and and peaceful and so different from home.  But it’s gotten to the point that while the monks are walking around, the streets are crawling with snap-happy tourists, many who don’t seem to think much about discretion.  I saw travelers with huge cameras following the monks and crouching around them  – or sometimes even standing above them which is considered majorly disrespectful – and shoving their lens into the faces of 8-year-old novices.  Not okay.

Exhibit A:

Monks & tourists in Luang Prabang

I know I’m a hypocrite…but it’s for the sake of argument, dangit!  And I’m keeping my distance.

It ruins a certain aspect of the practice and shows a clear lack of respect for the people living there trying to go about their normal lives.  I visited during the rainy season, but I can’t imagine what it’s like in the high season.

Also…why, when you’re somewhere other than home, does it seem to be okay to take pictures of children?  Would you ever see a cute, little kid at home and whip out your camera?  No, probably not.  It’s weird.

Boy in Sapa, Vietnam

Oh, but he’s so cute…

Black Hmong Women in Sapa, Vietnam

Women from the Black Hmong tribe during a trek in Sapa

On the other hand, there have also been many times in the past 18 months that I’ve been the object of people’s viewfinders.  Like in India, the land of staring and being too close for comfort, I even had someone thrust their baby into my arms and start taking photos.  It’s natural to be interested in people who are different from you – who look different, speak differently, do things differently.  It’s not necessarily rude or offensive, simply curiosity and genuine interest in other people.

But there still should be limits and awareness of other people’s privacy and anonymity.

What do you think?  Where are your boundaries when it comes to taking pictures of people?

 

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>> Moment of: Gratitude >>

19Nov
Buddhist Teaching in Chiang Mai

Wat Phra Singh >> Chiang Mai

Words to remember.

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